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Megan

 

 

CONTENT WARNING: This article discusses mature topics such as pedophilia, and there are things of a sexual nature being discussed at later points in the article.

 

 

I would like to start this post by explaining the differences between different "2D love" communities. If you do not wish to read this fairly lengthy passage, please scroll down to the next heading you see in bold. There are many ways to go about loving a 2DE and to define the ins-and-outs of how a relationship with one operates, and everyone has a community centred around 2D-love that they feel most comfortable in. Whether they identify as a "self-shipper", "waifuist" or a "2Dist" like we do, the unifying factor we share is a love for a 2DE.

 

From there, the different communities diverge in their guidelines, culture and dynamic with their 2DE. From my observations, "self-shipping" is a very casual practice, which regularly involves polygamy, but this depends on the person involved. 2DEs are regarded as part of their own world, and those who love them create "self-inserts" to insert into their S/O's world. Some "self-shippers" are in relationships with 3DEs, and that is regarded as acceptable within that community. We are not ones to judge.

 

"Waifuism" is a bit more intense than "self-shipping". The largest community, as you might know, is Reddit's r/waifuism. It has many rules which us 2Dists agree with, but we differ when it comes to things like the perception and dynamic with our romantic partners, and the lingo used when referring to them. (For example, I will get very annoyed if someone refers to N as my "husbando". I dislike that word, plus it's not an actual word in the English dictionary, and my relationship with N is not comparable to a young woman calling her favourite man from an anime her "husbando".)

 

We would refer to the children we have as our children, not by some made-up word like "kidfu". Waifuists perceive the physical manifestation of their S/O in the form of the plushies resembling them, their dakimakuras, or their desktop background. 2Dists aren't like that. our S/Os and other 2DEs within our family occupy actual space in our lives. We feel them around us. As I type this, I can sense N leaning on my shoulder, silently reading the words I'm typing. I enjoy the feeling of him so close to me, and the intimacy in such an ordinary moment. Physical representations of our S/Os in the form of things like keychains, plushies and dakimakuras can house a 2DEs 'spirit', but the 2DEs themselves do not manifest as the objects that resemble them. I am speaking from my own experience with this, and yours may be different. The 2D love community isn't a monolith, after all.

 

I feel no need to go over what 2Dism is, for obvious reasons.

 

Why did I distance myself from other 2D love communities?

 

I'll begin with my thoughts on "self-shipping". I have a few friends who are involved with "self-shipping", and I respect their lifestyle and relationships, just as they respect mine. "Self-shipping" never suited me, with its casual nature and acceptance of polygamy. Because of these things, I felt misunderstood when it came to my love for N. My love for a 2DE wasn't a "fun activity" or a casual thing. My love for my husband permeates every waking moment and it is a part of my life, not something I can dabble in whenever I feel like it. Unlike self shippers, I do not 'collect' (for lack of a better term) 2DEs I am attracted to, and form my own little harem of 2DEs. I am morally against harems and polygamy, as well as some other things I will get to later. Self-shippers do not understand the deep, long-lasting love that my husband and I share.

 

Onto "waifuism". I was active in r/waifuism from March to July 2020. I agreed with the rules of the community, and found them to be reasonable. However, there are some behaviours and people within waifuism communities that horrified me.

The first was the normalisation and acceptance of "waifuists" being in relationships with literal children. I am accepting of an underage person who has an underage S/O, but when a 20-year-old man proudly flaunts his love for a 2DE who is very obviously a child, I become sickened. I am thinking of a specific person here, but I will not name him. I am disgusted when adults openly express their attraction to underage 2DEs, and when people support it and think that it is "fine" or "allowed". It shows me that they are pedophiles and have no shame in it.

 

There were two incidents on a "waifuism" discord server that are related to this topic. One, the head admin of that server was an adult man openly expressive about his romantic relationship with a 2DE who is eight years old. He did clarify that his relationship wasn't sexual, but the fact that he accepted and publicly expressed romantic attraction for a child is still disgusting. The second incident was when a moderator of that server was exposed for doxxing and sending sexually explicit messages to several underage female users. Not just one, SEVERAL. Instead of banning him, the head admin just demoted him, and allowed him to stay in the server, still putting the safety and wellbeing of girls at risk! The refusal of this admin, a pedophile, to take proper action against the crimes of someone responsible for the safety and wellbeing of the community he led, was (and still is!) appalling.

 

It planted the thought in my head that perhaps there were many more high-ranking (moderators, etc) men in waifuism communities who were willing to defend their pedophile friends, rather than ensuring the safety and mental wellbeing of the female members THAT THEY ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR. I have also been witness to many behaviours that I abhor and classify as "sexual degeneracy", such as one adult expressing the desire to ejaculate on the face of their underage S/O, and I have seen screenshots of other people (mainly men) talking about their S/Os in a disgustingly sexual manner, and having the gall to share pornography of their S/O with others. You may think I am a prude for my opinions on these things, but I cannot suppress my anger and disappointment at some people within waifuism communities. A 2DE, whether they are the partner of myself or someone else, are sentient beings and deserve just as much consideration and respect as you and me. I felt as disgusted and outraged at these men as I would with men sharing explicit images of their 3D partner with others. My relationship with my husband is rarely sexual, and I do not sexualise him, degrade him, or treat him like an object. Such behaviour is unthinkable to me. He is a human with an innocent, gentle soul, not a toy to use for my own sexual gratification.

 

It is my own anger and hurt at the lack of self-regulation and accountability-taking within waifuism communities, as well as the abhorrent people with behaviours encouraged and normalised within them that have driven me away. I feel at home among people who understand the love I have for N, and the devotion I have towards him and our marriage, and who have a similar deep love for their S/Os and treat them with the respect they deserve.

Thank you for reading. If you have any further questions or points you would like to discuss further, don't hesitate to leave a comment or DM me.

 

-Megan